holly-blog “Have a holly, jolly Christmas; It’s the best time of the year”
is one of the many Christmas melodies that ring throughout this joyful holiday season. But what if this season is not so jolly? For some, Christmas is not the best time of the year.  Many dread the day for various reasons. Loneliness, missing loved ones who have died, relationship break-ups, empty nest, are just a few of the causes people wear a smiling face to mask the pain inside. If you are one of those who struggles during the holidays, here are three ways to handle it.

  1. Reflect-Pay attention to the source of your pain. For example, if you are missing your loved one, take the time to cherish their memories. You may be surprised how healing it is to look through photos or videos and reminisce.
  2. Refresh-Take time to focus on self-care. Rest, eat healthy, and exercise. Do something that will bring a smile to your face, like a massage, bubble bath or mini getaway.
  3. Reconnect-When we hurt, we tend to isolate. Sometimes we keep silent because we do not think others will understand our pain or we are afraid others may become uncomfortable or upset. But aches grow in secrecy. Take the time to reach out to someone to meet for coffee or lunch. Or attend a play or movie. Reach out to a friend or relative you have not spoken to in a while. God created us for connection so give it chance.

During this holiday season take the time to reflect, refresh and reconnect and hopefully your jolly will get a little bit better.